Groom Speech: The Ultimate Guide for 2024
You’re getting married! And that means giving a Groom Speech.
It’s only natural to wonder what to include in your speech and how to make sure everything goes to plan.
This definitive guide answers all the common questions tells you what you need to know to ace it on the day.
The Essentials
We’ll start by covering a few of the essentials before going into more details on important topics.
🏹 Main Purpose of the Speech
The main purpose of the Groom Speech is to thank key people and give guests an insight into the couple and their relationship.
The speech is also an opportunity for the Groom to express his love for his new Bride.
🕐 Timing of the Speech
The Groom usually speaks second, after the Father of the Bride but before the Best Man.
📋 Duties to be Covered
In his speech, the Groom will traditionally:
- thank the Father of the Bride for his speech and his toast to the Bride and Groom
- raise his own toast to the Bridesmaids
He will usually also:
- hand out any presents to the wedding party on behalf of him and his new wife
- say a few words about his Best Man
🏛️ Simple Speech Structure
1. Acknowledge the Father of the Bride
Accept his toast and thank him for his speech
2. Express your gratitude
Thank key people by name and give out any presents
3. Tell the story of your relationship
Say how you met and share some important memories
4. Pay tribute to the Bride
Say why you love her and share hopes for the future
5. Raise a Toast!
Invite guests to raise their glasses and toast the Bridesmaids.
🎵 Recommended Tone
The Groom Speech should be:
- warm and generous
- happy and romantic
Also remember:
- humour can be very effective – particularly if it’s self-deprecating
- sensitive topics (such as temporary break-ups or past relationships) should be avoided or handled with great delicacy
🎤 Tips for Delivery
When delivering your speech:
- aim to speak for no longer than 5 - 10 minutes
- keep it conversational – i.e. try to speak as you would normally speak
- take your time – pause between each of your main points
- use small cue cards to prompt you (don’t try to do it all from memory or read from a script)
- And make sure you practice before the big day!
🚫 Pitfalls to Avoid
The Groom should try to avoid:
- thanking too many people by name
- alluding to any family disagreements
- making ‘in’ references not everyone will get
- using all-too-familiar ‘jokes’ and clichés
- drinking too much before the speeches!
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